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The Secret To Loving Others And Yourself You Haven’t Heard Of Yet

<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">Psychologist Alexander Loyd recently reprinted his book&comma; <em>Beyond Willpower&colon; The Secret Principle to Achieving Success in Life&comma; Love&comma; and Happiness as The Love Code<&sol;em>&comma; and it has some interesting and important life lessons you’ve probably never heard of&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">Dr&period; Loyd explains that the cause of many of our individual problems&comma; and the problems of the world&comma; stem from stress&period; Stress may cause Between 90 to 95 percent of the disease&comma; and it can have subtle effects on how we interact with others&comma; and the paths we choose in life&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">Most people seem to understand stress is the problem&comma; which is why we try to find so many coping mechanisms – going to the gym&comma; trying yoga&comma; meditation&comma; you name it&period; However&comma; it doesn’t look like as a society things are improving&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">When Dr&period; Loyd’s wife was diagnosed with clinical depression&comma; things hit home&period; After 12 years of watching his wife try medication after medication&comma; try natural solutions&comma; and follow advice from doctors and fellow psychologists to no avail&comma; he realized that there are two types of stress&colon; internal and external&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;We’ve been treating external stress&comma; and that’s what most people try to do&comma;” he says in an interview with Joan Hermann&period; However&comma; he found that &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;the cause of our problems is internal stress&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">He asks us to imagine two couples are sitting in the same restaurant&comma; but the waiter never comes over to take their orders&period; The minute&&num;8217&semi;s pass&comma; and still no one shows up&period; One of the couples is just chatting and don’t even seem to notice and don’t care&comma; but the other becomes angry&comma; look around&comma; they tap the table with their fingers&comma; their face turns red&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;You can just see it&semi; their blood pressure is going through the roof&period;” Dr&period; Loyd emphasizes &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;they’re under the same external stress&comma; which is not being weighted on in a restaurant&period;” The difference is in how they react&period; It’s their internal stress that’s off&period; When that happens&comma; everything in your body causes you to react like you’re in real&comma; physical danger&comma; even if we aren’t&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">Dr&period; Loyd recommends using energy healing to reduce inner stress truly&period; Although it uses pressure points similar to acupressure&comma; it’s quite different&period; The goal of manipulating energy is to do away with &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;cellular memories&period;” He believes internal stress comes from images and memory – memories of sadness&comma; anger&comma; fear&comma; negative thinking&period; All those unhealthy emotions make an imprint on us on a physiological&comma; cellular level&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">A healthy lifestyle&comma; positive thinking&comma; and deep breathing can’t get to the core of these images and memory&period; Since they become a part of us&comma; they act as a &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;warning system” for the future&period; We learn from our fears and anger&comma; so they can’t just be wiped away with breathing exercises&comma; even though deep breathing and positive thinking are beneficial to your health in other ways&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">&OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;You need to heal the source as well&period;”<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">If you want to find out the energy healing techniques he uses&comma; you can read more in his book&comma; but he also wrote several tips for Mindbodygreen&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<ol style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">&NewLine;<li>Act out of love&comma; not out of fear – in essence&comma; Dr&period; Loyd is saying that so many people decide what not to do because they’re afraid&period; Maybe they’re afraid of failure&comma; think about worst case scenarios and fall away from doing something out of love for themselves or others&period; Put fear aside to love&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Change your inner programming – most people haven’t been living in a very spiritual way&comma; and they seem to depend too much on their willpower&period; He thinks that’s not enough to get your &OpenCurlyDoubleQuote;Aha transformation”– the heart and mind are what rule our bodies&comma; so change your programming to let love do its work&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Don’t blame yourself – he sees this as a useless emotion&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Addressing external stress won’t solve your problems – it is the internal stress you need to solve&comma; that’s the true source of your issues in life&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Don’t set external goals&comma; make them internal – your goals should relate to love&comma; and happiness&comma; not work or money&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>Do things for others without asking how you’ll gain – most people base their actions off of selfishness&period; Act with selfless love instead&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<li>If you feel happiness&comma; love&comma; and are at peace&comma; your life will fall into place&comma; and you’ll find success without having to force anything&period;<&sol;li>&NewLine;<&sol;ol>&NewLine;<p style&equals;"text-align&colon; justify">Dr&period; Loyd lives by his work and advises his patients to follow his code&comma; too&period; The secret to loving others and yourself can’t be found in exercise programs&comma; diet&comma; healthy foods to eat&comma; or any other external factors&period; Love and spirituality are closely linked&comma; and neither is tied to the physical&comma; rather&comma; it’s all internal&comma; and that’s where you have to start to grow&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;

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